I was out for dinner with 2 lady friends on Friday night when one of them kept walking away to answer a private call. She told me that one of her many were going through a breakup. She assured me it was perfectly normal, that they go through this every time they meet someone new. They meet someone, they fall crazily in love and then the guys leave them all within 10 days. Yes, guys can be absolute bastards.
Then she turned toward me and asked me "So which kinda of person are you? The one that falls too fast and too hard? Or the one that goes around hurting people's feelings?" I remembered feeling guilty of both and stared at my shoes and mumbled some nonchalant answer. I don't mean to but I keep everyone at arm's length cos currently I'm a little gun-shy.
I don't know why but sometimes we (I) continue to say and do things that hurt people we care about, be it friends, family & parents. The closer they are to us the more we tend take them for granted. I've realised that I've been so busy that I haven't spent any quality time with my parents. It's usually work or friends. Similarly with friends we do and say things that might hurt their feelings without a second thought. Half the time we're thinking, "they know me better than to get offended, besides friends don't keep grudges".
It's so time-consuming and emotionally draining to keep having to watch what you say and do, but we don't really have to do that. Because no one tries being mean on purpose. It's usually an emotional response to some other issue. At the end of the day it's trust. You can trust one another that they don't mean to offend on purpose.
Remember. Bygones.
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